Beard, Emotions, Fiance, Job, Relationships, True Life

Beardless Shock

Last night was very, very sad and I could not help my reaction.  D. not only shaved off his beautiful Beard but, also his Mustache and all facial hair around them.  I admit, I was in tears and making my sarcastic comments as I told him I need time to get used to this.  The man I fell in love with was rugged with a Beard that got fuller every day.  I loved to pull on that Beard when we kissed and run my fingers through it.  Plus, his hair went with the Beard and now, he will definitely have to get new glasses because the frames just don’t work.

I have mixed emotions about him accepting the first job offered with that clean-shaven requirement, although, I know it is a good job at a hotel.  He told me he is willing to look for another one now that he has one.  One that is okay with him having a Beard.  But, what would he tell them?  This is the Beard I want to re-grow?  Will you allow this in the future?

I sound selfish, but, it is how I feel at the moment. I know relationships are not about looks but when you have been with someone for almost half a year and they suddenly do something like this; it shocks your system.  Especially, when it is not for medical reasons.

3 thoughts on “Beardless Shock”

  1. Wow a couple things come to mind reading this…wow again. First and foremost-you stepped up and postponed your WEDDING because he didn’t have a regular job and that was important and shows commitment to your life together. This was a good strong thing to do. BUTTT now He goes out and shows how he loves you and is committed and GETS A JOB and you are having “mixed emotions about him accepting the first job offered with that clean-shaven requirement”!!?? Are you listening to yourself? Are you reading your own words? Yes that IS selfish and hurtful when hes making such an effort for your relationship. You said “I was in tears and making my sarcastic comments as I told him I need time to get used to this…” When hes doing all this for YOU and his beard means something to him too, its wrong for you to belittle his show of love with biting sarcasm. And whats his response? “He told me he is willing to look for another one now that he has one…” That is so loving of him and so sad at the same time because what if you dont like that one? Whats he to do? See? Stop doing that to him. Its JUST a BEARD for heavens sake. Its the man you need to love not the beard. Im sorry GF I love you way too much not to say it like it is.

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    1. You have a right to your opinion and I have a right to my feelings. I Love D. for who he is: with or without the Beard. But, I still have the right to feel and get used to change. He understands me and we are okay.

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  2. Agreed-its perfectly ok to have feelings. Its perfectly ok to need to adjust to a new look. It all about how you handle those feelings and the adjustment time in that you dont hurt someone in the process.

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