Let me tell you a true story about a Maid-of-Honor that ruined the wedding of a Bride by taking her dream of the wedding, and shattering it all!
My Fiancée and I had a date set, we had a themed planned, his work had approved time off. Things were running smoothly and on course until:
Back up a bit, please: My Fiance and I are both Volunteers at our church. She is not. Let’s call her ‘Cruella’. She attends the church but does not volunteer in the Leader sense of the word. The church has a policy that you should not be a Leader and knowingly commit sin. We were living together and therefor committing sin. Terrible, I know. While some people did know of this personally due to being friends with us, and it was whispered amongst some (including some of the Pastors in the church), nothing was said aloud, probably due to the fact that we had a date planned and marriage was coming up soon.
Cruella supposedly just learned recently that we were Living Together. She went on and on about how we were sinning and going against the church. I kept asking her to let it go. I told her we were going to be married. I begged her to let it go..finally to the point of telling her to let it go or she could be out of the wedding.
The next day, we get a phone call from one of the bigger heads of the church (this was yesterday.) Somebody (Gosh, wonder who?) has been calling and complaining about our living situation and the fact that we volunteer. We have two options. Either we stop volunteering until we get married, which would have been in August or we get married Right Away! Right Away? YES< Tonight!
What a decision. Volunteering means so much to D. He is a Greeter, he does Music, and he helps everywhere needed. I am working with the children now and hoping to become a Teacher! We had to say Yes. So, yesterday was spent getting the License and going to three stores to find a ring to fit his finger. Obviously, not the one he really wants. We wore our Run DMC outfits because nothing was planned and we got married in a Private Ceremony in the back room by one of the Pastors. After the wedding, we went to a restaurant to celebrate with my friend from church who stood up for me and the guy who videotaped it for us, another friend of ours.
I love D and I am happy to be his wife. But, it wasn’t fair to have been robbed of our ceremony. None of my family and friends were around to see me get married. Our wedding night was not spent in a nice, hotel room. After killing 3 bugs, Poor D. held me in his arms as I cried myself to sleep over this whole, stupid situation and my feelings over Cruella. If she hadn’t called the church, we would have made it to our wedding ceremony. D. had never been married. This wasn’t even a proper elopement. It was not fair in any shape or form. I do not blame the church since they have their policies. I believe they were working with us which is why they tried to ignore it and did not take action until they started receiving phone calls.